“She’s stuck between who she is,
who she wants to be, and
who she should be.” Unknown
Maggie has been married to her husband for 19 years. They have two teenage children, a son who is 17 years old and headed off to college soon and a daughter who is 15 years old and thriving in school and sports. Her relationship with her husband isn’t bad, it’s just empty…lonely. They live as roommates and communicate only about the kid’s logistics. At one point, she remembers thinking to herself that she may live the rest of her life and never be held, never be touched again.
She never went looking for someone else…
She never had done anything like this before…
She never wanted to hurt anyone…
And now…even though she knows she cannot leave her marriage (at least not right now), she can’t seem to turn away from what she’s come to feel and experience with this other man.
I can’t stop my affair – and, although I know I should, I don’t want to.
This is the first time I’ve felt happy and excited in my life in a long time. I finally wake-up with something to look forward to.
Now that I know what it feels like to be really seen…and heard…and valued…it makes me realize all that is missing in my marriage.
These are the words I hear again and again from my clients who are struggling in their marriages and find themselves caught-up in the whirlwind of an affair.
These are the voices of women that didn’t have any intention of having affairs or hurting their husbands.
These are the feelings that surface when you feel like you can’t leave your marriage and feel like you can’t turn away from an affair…even when you know it doesn’t align with your values…even when you’re struggling day-to-day with the lies and the passion, the highs and the lows.
Maggie wants to make a decision about what to do as it relates to her marriage – does she stay or go? If she stays, what does that look like? And if she goes, when would she go? She doesn’t want to blow her life or hurt her family.
But most of all, Maggie wants to make that decision without relying on having a committed, lasting relationship with this other man. It feels real, but you know what everyone says…
She may even want to give her husband one more chance…
She wants to stop spinning around in the unanswered questions in her mind.
If this scenario sounds all too familiar…(or you know someone that could tell this same story), then listen to my brand-new, completely confidential and judgment-free complimentary teaching call,
I Can’t Leave My Marriage, but I Can’t Stop My Affair
This is a recorded call that I hosted live previously.
