But if we stay here, we’re only creating another, different sort of relationship dysfunction, because we’re relying on someone else to save us from the life we’ve created. There’s no power there; only more dependency.
Instead, we can choose to become our own oxygen source.
We can see how we’ve become disconnected from who we really are and find our way back home. We can ask ourselves:
What do we need? What do we desire?
How have I been looking to others to meet those needs or desires?
Where have I abandoned myself and my needs?
The answers to those questions will begin to take you from a disconnection of self to guiding you back home.
Let me be clear: “HOME” does not mean your physical home in your current life with your current marriage. Home means knowing who you really are, letting others see that and embracing all the parts of you.
Home is your heart. Your soul. Your spirit.
You may find yourself and remain in your marriage.
You may not. Maybe you’ll decide to leave your marriage.
You may even attempt to give this other relationship a real try.
But it won’t be from a needy, please save me from myself place. It won’t be from a disconnection from self. It will be from an empowered place of knowing who you are, what you want and feeling empowered to create it.