“Being aware of the bondage is enough to free you from its clutches.” Mata Amritanandamayi
Here’s how relationships typically work:
- When our partners are behaving in a way that we find pleasing, we feel good…
…or at least not bad.
- When our partners are behaving in a way that we find displeasing, we feel rotten…
…or disgusted or angry.
But if our feeling good is dependent upon our partner behaving in a certain way…
We’ll always be feeling vulnerable (since we cannot control his actions, choices or behaviors)
And they’ll be in bondage (feeling controlled and responsible for making you happy).
We say the words, “I love you,” in our relationships, but we really don’t mean it.
What we mean is:
- “I love you when you’re behaving in a way that pleases me,” or
- “I love you as long as you don’t do things that hurt me,” or
- “I love you as long as you don’t ever leave me.”
That’s not love…
That’s bondage.
That’s control…oppression…attachment.
When you’re here with me….and behaving in a way that pleases me, I love you.
For today…try being happy and feeling good – regardless of what your partner is doing or is not doing.
It is only from that place that any kind of lasting love can be born.
And you probably thought I was going to be talking about kinky sex or something…:)
