Marriage Advice

We Don’t Say the Quiet Thing Out Loud

We Don’t Say the Quiet Thing Out Loud

 “There is a price to pay for speaking the truth. There is a bigger price for living a lie.” Cornel West It was around the tenth year in my first marriage that I began feeling very disconnected...

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Are You Caught in a Rip Tide?

Are You Caught in a Rip Tide?

“Not everything that is faced can be changed; but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” James Baldwin Living near the ocean we hear a lot about rip currents, also known as rip tides and...

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Your Familiar Discomfort

Your Familiar Discomfort

“Familiar discomfort feels the same as comfort.” Brianna Wiest Rebecca showed up on one of the Truth & Clarity calls my team member Rachelle hosts.  She shared the deep challenges she’s...

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“I Didn’t Mean to Hurt You”

“I Didn’t Mean to Hurt You”

“If you are not a hero of your own story, then you’re missing the whole point of your humanity.” Steve Maraboli “Your coach is just out there empowering women.” One of my clients shared this comment...

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“I am so, so tired.”

“I am so, so tired.”

“One of the quickest ways to become exhausted is by suppressing your feelings.” Bill Vaughan “I am so tired. I am tired of just existing. I am tired of feeling like I’m not a priority. I am tired of...

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When resentment turns into entitlement

When resentment turns into entitlement

“Unexpressed emotions never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.” - Sigmund Freud “I haven’t felt connected to my husband for almost two years and I feel like I’m...

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The Purpose of Guilt

The Purpose of Guilt

“Guilt is there to punish and protect us.” - Mastin Kipp One of the emotions that will keep women struggling in disconnected marriages stuck in indecision about whether to stay or go is guilt. Guilt...

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You Can Have the Relationship You Desire

You Can Have the Relationship You Desire

You CAN have the relationship you desire.You CAN create the relationship of your dreams!It’s possible for you… just like it was possible for me. Give me five minutes to explain how! Because I hear...

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We Place Our Marriages On A Shelf

We Place Our Marriages On A Shelf

Most of us get married because it’s something that we want within the life we’re creating. Which means, it’s somewhat like a milestone goal. And what happens when you “accomplish” the goal? You move...

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Book Release: In Love

Book Release: In Love

Most coaches write books to establish credibility in their industry and preach their message to a wider platform. But I’ve written eight books (and counting)... I didn’t write this book for...

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Why you’re still struggling…

Why you’re still struggling…

“A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there.”  John Assaraf If you’ve been struggling in your marriage for a long time, there’s a reason why. If you’ve been following my...

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NO ONE is meant to be controlled…

NO ONE is meant to be controlled…

“I know it’s a hard lesson to learn, but you cannot love yourself and love someone who hurts you at the same time. Please choose you.” Stephanie Bennett-Henry My client’s husband is controlling. She...

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How to talk to him about YOUR needs

“Never apologize for asking for what you need, if you don’t ask - the answer will always be no.” Ken Petti Everyone has needs. And pretending otherwise is a lie. Women often have a difficult...

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Men, Women and Communication

“Refusing to ask for help when you need it is refusing someone the chance to be helpful.” Ric Ocasek When our lives become stressful, do you think we should communicate more or less inside our...

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I’m monitoring everything he does…

I’m monitoring everything he does…

“Surveillance rarely breeds trust.” Esther Perel Joannie found out about her husband’s affair with a co-worker six weeks ago, and ever since, it’s been an emotional roller-coaster.  He’s saying all...

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What if real love can EVOLVE?

“How does the pressing reality of the ‘I’ve gotta have him every minute of the day’ feeling in the brain transmute to an ‘Oh, hi, you again...How’s everything?’ state of mind? The hormone rushes of...

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Who’s Your Person?

“When you share the details of your daily life, you create connection between two people. When you withhold details from your daily life from your spouse, you create disconnection.” - Sharon Pope We...

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I Stayed Longer Than I Should Have

I Stayed Longer Than I Should Have

“The best time to do something significant is between yesterday and tomorrow.” Zig Ziglar I once had a client who was hard on herself for staying longer than she should have in her marriage. The...

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COVID Has Been Hard on Marriages

“It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” Hans Selye For over a year, we’ve all been forced into very close proximity with our spouses. And only those in our immediate family or...

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A Crowded Marriage

“Again and again he cheated on her. Every time she forgives thinking he would do it not again.” Jaspal Virdi When there’s been infidelity inside of a marriage, a lot of people might assume that most...

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When You’re Just Done

When You’re Just Done

“Sometimes you just have to be done. Not mad, not upset. Just done.” Unknown My client’s husband had cheated, but she was trying to work through that… Her husband was drinking a lot, but she wanted...

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Setting a Boundary (in the Name of Love)

“Beware of the people who make you think you’re holding a grudge when you’re really holding a boundary.” Mel Robbins  Setting healthy boundaries isn’t something that we learned how to do. Certainly...

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Are You in a Lonely Marriage?

 “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.” 2009 film, 'World’s Greatest Dad' One of...

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What Do You REALLY Want?

 “Desire is possibility seeking expression.” Ralph Waldo Emerson A couple of weeks ago, I talked about getting clear about your desires. This is so important. Because, as women, we were never really...

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I Don’t Want to Lose My Family

“People aren’t attached to people, they’re attached to their beliefs.” Byron Katie My client, K., had been married for nearly 20 years and she had two boys, ages 15 and 9. The marriage hadn’t been...

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Making a Decision When There’s an Affair

“But when we reduce the conversation to passing judgment, we are left with no conversation at all.”  Esther Perel It’s not uncommon that my clients have had an affair at some point. I appreciate...

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How My Marriage Kept Me Stuck in My Wounds

 “After age seven, 95% of our life is based on the programs we downloaded in the first seven years. 70% of those programs are limiting and disempowering.”  Bruce H. Lipton, Ph.D  We all have wounds...

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Being Ready to Create Change in Your Life

“Just because it’s not happening right now doesn’t mean it never will.” Daniell Koepke Have you ever wondered why some of the clients I speak about are able to make a decision about their lonely and...

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Are You Protecting a Story?

“Nothing happens until the pain of remaining the same outweighs the pain of change.” Arthur Burt My client and her husband are both entrepreneurs. But my client was always frustrated because her...

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Will These Changes Last?

“The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.” Socrates My client L. and I have been working together for nine weeks and even though she had been...

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I Can’t Do That to Him

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.” Brené Brown One of the pervasive thoughts that keep women stuck in indecision is that...

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