“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” Maya Angelou I wasn’t trying to perform some kind of...
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The Marriage We Have is a Result of Our Thoughts
“If you keep examining your mind, you’ll come to see that thoughts of who you are and how it all is are creating the reality you’re experiencing.” Ram Dass Most of the time when our marriages...
The Danger of a Marriage on Auto-Pilot
“Tell me to what you pay attention and I will tell you who you are.” Jose Ortega y Gasset Do you remember the day when you held your newborn in your arms for the first time? You instinctively...
Want to Heal Your Relationship? Find Forgiveness.
“The healer you have been looking for is your own courage to know and love yourself completely.” Yung Pueblo Being in relationship with one another forces us to forgive over and over and over again...
Reconnect & Learn Something New about Your Partner
“Each day learn something new, and just as important, re-learn something old.” Robert Breault One of the ways I think our marriages fall off the rails is when we stop being curious about one...
A Marriage Counseling Drawback
“Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart.” Richard Carlson If I had a dollar for every time I heard this one particular scenario in my coaching...
Accepting an Apology You Never Receive
“A life lived without forgiveness is a life lived in the past.” Asa Don Brown Sometimes in relationships we hurt one another. When people hurt us intentionally, it’s because they’re hurting...
Are the Empty Nest Blues Placing Your Marriage at Risk?
There's a growing epidemic spreading its way across the nation with a bullseye aimed directly on couples whose kids have flown the coop. No, it's not health issues, retirement money worries, or...
Conventional Wisdom Doesn’t Work in Our Relationships
“Conventional wisdom is no wisdom at all. Conventional wisdom is taking someone else’s word for the way things are.” Richard Marcinko When our marriage or most intimate relationship seems...
The 10 Minute Marriage Fix
Every single day I hear from women, "I'd like to fix my marriage, but I don't know how..." "We've been struggling for so long, I don't even know if it can be fixed..." "If he's not willing to work...
Your Relationship Scorecard
“The minute you start keeping score, you’re destroying the relationship.” Tony Robbins She became controlling, but he shut down and became distant. She stopped wanting to be physical, but he...
What a Shame.
“Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost.” Khalil Gibran He is a good man. He was raised by his grandmother and taught to be honest and responsible....
Other People Don’t Belong in Your Marriage
“Don’t let the noise of other people’s opinions drown out your inner voice.” Steve Jobs My client, Victoria, was struggling in her marriage. She and her husband were arguing more frequently, the...
Enough Distracting from Your Disconnected Marriage. Plus an Invitation for You.
“Work is hard. Distractions are plentiful. And time is short.” Adam Hochschild If you’ve spent the whole summer spending quality time with your kids, but also using that as a way to avoid...
Thirty Phrases that can Save a Troubled Marriage
Words are powerful. And although actions are important, our words can be the things that either divide us further or soften us to one another. Sometimes, just a simple phrase can de-escalate an...
How Did My Marriage Get So Bad?
“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” Albert Einstein When we’re struggling in our marriages, we’re always looking for a way to improve it, to...
Too Little. Too Late.
“The longest journey you will make is the 18 inches from your head to your heart.” Moikanos For months you’ve wanted to feel like a priority in his life…more important than work, more...
90% of You Will Not Attempt to Solve the Problem and More than 50% of You will Divorce.
“I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy. I am telling you it is going to be worth it.” Art Williams Over the years I have spoken with thousands of women who are struggling in their marriages and...
How Do I Tell My Husband I’m Unhappy?
“Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. Without it…it dies.” Tony Gaskins The best predictor for whether a couple will ultimately divorce is not their age, income or even...
It’s Not (Only) About the Affair
“Cancer is that awful word we all fear when we go to the doctor…, but in that brief dark moment we hear it the world we live in and the people we share it with begin to illuminate things we did not...
The Disconnected Marriage
“The key problem I encounter working with wounded, depressed, and unhappy people is a lack of connection…starting from a disconnection from themselves and then with others.” David W. Earle ...
An Abandoned Home. A Disconnected Marriage.
“When we are feeling disconnected from our partner, it isn’t necessarily a sign to leave, but a sign to go deeper.” Jennifer Wardowski Last summer, my husband and I purchased a 60+ year old home...
The Pain in Relationships is Circular
We all have pain in relationships. And many times, the arguments that result from that pain are circular. “I have found the paradox that if you love until it hurts there can be no more hurt, only...
Why is Connecting with My Husband so Difficult?
“She's a woman, you're a dude. You're not supposed to understand her. That's not what she's after.... She doesn't want you to understand her. She knows that's impossible. She just wants you to...
What I Learned from Jim Masters & How It Relates to Our Relationships
“You cannot have a happy ending to an unhappy journey.” Abraham-Hicks Yesterday I was interviewed by Jim Masters, a successful TV and Radio Personality and Host of CUTV News and we talked about the...
The Single Biggest Relationship Mistake that We ALL Make
“If you would be different, I would feel better.” Abraham-Hicks If there is one teaching I have learned throughout the years that has made the greatest difference in my life and my most important...
Keeping the Boardroom Out of the Bedroom: Keeping the Intimacy of Marriage
“Exhausted, I started to check out of our marriage, convinced that what we had was fine. After all, our lives looked pretty good from the outside." Sharon Pope, Keeping the Boardroom Out of the...
I’ve Tried Everything and Nothing is Working
“The results you achieve will be in direct proportion to the effort you apply.” Denis Waitley Anne reached out to me and said, “I’ve tried everything. I meditate, I journal, I’ve read dozens...
We’re Missing an Intimate Connection. Here’s Why…
“Throughout our lives we long to love ourselves more deeply and to feel connected with others. Instead, we often contract, fear intimacy, and suffer a bewildering sense of separation. We crave love,...
How to Heal After an Affair
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” Jalaluddin Rumi The moment when you find out your spouse has cheated on you... Words fail to describe the gravity of how it feels. It...
There is No Relationships Class. No One Teaches Us How to Do This
“A ship in the harbor is safe, but that’s not what ships are for.” J. A. Shedd We go to school for decades to learn about things like math, science, reading and history. We spend years...
We Have Grown Apart. Here’s What to Do…
“When you turn your back, you’ve lost her.” Estee Lauder You’ve stopped sharing your hopes and dreams, passions and desires with each other. Your conversations are ruled by all the logistics...
January is Considered Divorce Month for a Reason
“Sometimes your only available form of transportation is a leap of faith.” Margaret Shepard A lot of people make the decision to leave their marriages in January – it’s actually known as Divorce...
I Should Be Grateful
“Healing works through a kind of detox; things have to come up in order to be released….we can’t just push the darkness down, pour pink paint over it and then pretend it’s not there. We have to look...
Is My Marriage in Trouble?
“Sorrow comes in great waves…but rolls over us, and though it may almost smother us, it leaves us. And we know that if it is strong, we are stronger, inasmuch as it passes and we remain.” Henry...
Can a Troubled Marriage be Saved?
“What is uttered from the heart alone, will win the hearts of others to your own.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Natalie’s marriage is on the ropes. She and her husband, Chad, are living apart,...
Why Isn’t This Enough?
“There wasn’t a simple answer to the most difficult question in my life. And there was no way to answer that question without either denying my needs or hurting my husband. There was no answer that...
I Love Him, but I’m Not in Love with Him
“When the sun has set, no candle can replace it.” George R. R. Martin Rachel has love for her husband, but she’s no longer in love with him. Rachel and her husband have been married for ten...
If I’m so Smart, Why Can’t I Fix My Marriage?
“… there was a new voice, which you slowly recognized as your own… determined to do the only thing you could do – determined to save the only life you could save.” Mary Oliver, excerpt from The...
My Single Biggest Piece of Advice for Men
“Connection is why we’re here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.” Brené Brown I speak with women in...
Where does Marriage Counseling Fail Us?
“The details of what you’re fighting over are negligible compared to your innermost experience begging to be heard.” Sevin Philips, MFT Many of my clients who are struggling in their marriages...
Relationships Drift. Marriages End. Hearts Break Open.
“The most important questions in life can never be answered by anyone except oneself.” John Fowles When my first husband and I went on a boating trip with some friends, we decided to stop in a cove...
Valentine’s Day when Your Marriage is a Mess
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” Dr. Maya Angelou Eleven years into my first marriage, I sat across the table from the...
Can We Save this Marriage?
Even good marriages fail. One minute you’re standing on solid ground. The next minute, you’re not. And there’s always two versions: yours and theirs. Both versions start the same way, though. Both...