“When you share the details of your daily life, you create connection between two people. When you withhold details from your daily life from your spouse, you create disconnection.” – Sharon Pope
We all have that one person….
That person that we reach out to consistently when we have something to share.
Something funny or silly…
Something scary or irritating…
Something you’re excited about or interested in.
Who’s the first person you think of when it comes to sharing something about your day? Whoever that is, that’s your person.
It could be your best friend, sister, or mother…
It could be your affair partner…
It could even be sharing it on social media…
Or your person could be your spouse.
When we stop sharing the day-to-day happenings with our spouse – and begin sharing those things with someone else – we create a slow, gradual disconnection inside the marriage.
It’s like each day, you’re taking one step away from the marriage.
But because each step individually is so subtle, neither of you may even notice it’s happening.
You might even convince yourself that not sharing the details of your life is somehow beneficial to your marriage.
But the problem is that we don’t stop sharing the details of our lives…we start sharing those details with someone else. And it’s in the sharing of the mundane and interesting that we connect to one another. So we begin to feel closer to others than we do to our own spouse.
So who’s your person?
If you’re feeling disconnected from your spouse, maybe now is the time to become more conscious about sharing your day with your spouse more frequently.
Because it is 10x more difficult to remain connected or create new connections in your marriage if your spouse is not your person.
Don’t know how to do that? Or aren’t sure you want your spouse to be your person? Let’s talk to see if there’s a fit for us to work together.
P.S. As I’m sitting here, my husband just texted me a picture of the fish he just caught. It’s not because I like to fish; I don’t. It’s because I’m his person. And I’m grateful to be the first person he wants to share that with.