“One of the quickest ways to become exhausted is by suppressing your feelings.” Bill Vaughan
“I am so tired. I am tired of just existing. I am tired of feeling like I’m not a priority. I am tired of feeling a total lack of desire towards my husband. I am tired of trying and nothing ever changing. I’m tired of feeling like I have to do everything and I don’t have a partner. I’m just so tired of all of it.”
These were the recent words of one of my members in my membership program, and it’s not the first time this sentiment has been expressed.
Maybe you’re feeling that way about your marriage right now…
Most of us would assume that the exhaustion is stemming from the problems we’re facing inside the marriage. And that’s probably true.
But I also think that this kind of exhaustion can come from years of suppressing our feelings.
- It can come from suppressing the truth in order to keep the peace.
- It can come from making excuses for our partner’s bad behavior so we don’t have to face the unknown if we choose to challenge or end the relationship.
- It can come from being caught up in our heads, second-guessing and overthinking.
When we feel like we’re just treading water in the same place, it is exhausting. It’s only when we’re making progress – any kind of progress, no matter how small – that we get the energy we need to keep going.
And that’s what I help my clients and members do: make progress.
I help them get un-stuck from perpetual indecision about their marriages.
I help them to move forward in the direction that’s right for them – whether that’s to stay and show up differently in the marriage, or to gently and lovingly release it.
If you’ve been stuck for a long time, not making progress in any direction…
If you’re tired of the roller-coaster…one day thinking you can stay and make it work and the next wondering how you’re going to do this even one more day…
If you’re just so tired of being tired in your marriage, let’s talk.