“When your heart is broken, there’s an opening…a small space…for the light to get through.” Sharon Pope
To date, there has been nothing in my life that caused me more pain than when I had my heart broken by someone that I loved. The day he came to my home and told me that although he “loved me, but he wasn’t in love with me” sent me spiraling for months with many Sunday afternoons curled up on the sofa in tears.
But now I know why he left.
Most didn’t really understand why he left.
After speaking with each of these women at length (and dozens more just like them), I have a theory about why some men leave some relationships…
Sometimes men leave us to save us.
They left us because they could do the thing that we were not strong enough to do for ourselves.
Now, don’t get me wrong….they didn’t do this consciously (in their minds it was for them and Lord knows we don’t want to give them too much credit for this), but they did for us what we couldn’t do for ourselves at that moment in our lives.
In each of these cases, the relationship wasn’t a good one; in fact, in hindsight, most were pretty toxic.
Sometimes people ask me why I serve the audience I do:
I coach women in heartbreak attempting to find themselves, their hearts and find their way to peace (which by the way, is all the same destination) because it’s important work; nothing will bring you to your knees faster than heartbreak.
I coach women who really want love in their lives but haven’t been able to attract or sustain it because healing the past and finding love is not just a simple, intellectual exercise; matters of the heart never are.