“Every loving thought is true. Everything else is an appeal for healing and help, regardless of the form it takes.” A Course in Miracles
I have a client in Europe that I’ve been working with for a little over a month, who I’ll refer to as Heather. She contacted me because she’s been in a long-term relationship for several years now that she knows isn’t right for her. She can physically feel the discord of it in her body; she can’t sleep when she’s with him, she can feel the wall go up around her heart and all she wants to do is run away. But he’s a good guy and she’s petrified of hurting him. She’s also been frozen in her footsteps when she thinks about all she’ll let go…because after all…..he is a good guy.
So, she doesn’t want to keep the relationship going, but she also can’t release it.
Let’s talk about miracles.
Most of us think that a miracle is someone beating terminal cancer or an influx of money right before you lose it all. And while those things happen and they are miraculous, miracles can occur in our average daily lives, if we’d only stop to notice.
According to A Course in Miracles, a miracle is a shift in perception from fear to love….
Seems simple enough, right? No one wants fear….everyone wants love.
So, why then, is it so damn difficult?
Because we’ve been groomed since we were babies to live in fear:
If you don’t get good grades, you’re not going to get into a good college.
I know you love piano, but you need a solid business degree that you can rely upon.
Plan for the worst, but hope for the best.
You better marry this one if you want to have a family; after all, you’re not getting any younger.
All men cheat or lie or leave.
Suck it up and stay in your unhappy marriage…it’s not like he’s beating you or anything.
The kind of love you want doesn’t exist…give it up.
We’re not conditioned to see our lives through the eyes of love.
So, imagine my surprise when this brilliant client said to me, in the midst of her struggle, that several times a day, she repeats the phrase, “I’m willing to see this through the eyes of love.” She knows a shift can happen within her and she’s patient enough to wait for it. She knows miracles can happen to her because she’s seen it in her professional life.
And all it takes is a shift in perception from fear to love.
Heather’s willing to drop all of her fears that have kept her frozen and is open to the opportunity to see this relationship (and what she knows to be true for her about the relationship) through the eyes of love. And she’s actively asking for it. She’s intentionally seeking a miracle. And she’s allowing it to unfold as it should.
Is there something in your life that you can apply this to?
Is there a relationship that you’re willing to see through the eyes of love?
Are you willing to ask for the miracle to occur?
When that topic comes to your mind throughout the day, and your fear rears its ugly head, repeat to yourself, “I’m willing to see this through the eyes of love,” and see what softens.
