The Intensity of Pain

“Never be ashamed of how deeply and passionately you loved someone who destroyed you, because destroying things is just who they are…and loving things deeply and passionately is who you are.”   butterflies rising   When Victoria found out about her husband’s...

The Pain in Relationships is Circular

We all have pain in relationships. And many times, the arguments that result from that pain are circular. “I have found the paradox that if you love until it hurts there can be no more hurt, only more love.” Mother Theresa   Let me see if I can do this story...

My Life Needed to be Blown-Up

“When your life shatters, you’re being awakened.” Martha Beck   Ten years ago, I was submerged in a life and a career that I thought contained all the keys to happiness, but instead was a life I wanted to escape from. I was married to a man that was nice and...

Why We Stay – Even When It Hurts

“The longest journey you will make in your life is from your head to your heart.” Sioux legend Tammy was a woman that found me through Facebook. She had read the blog post I wrote on narcissism and knew she needed help getting out of her toxic, abusive and emotionally...