“Every act of creation is first an act of destruction.” Pablo Picasso
Maybe it’s time to end your existing marriage.
Does that seem harsh? Let me explain.
The marriage you had – over the last 10, 20 or even 30 years together – is what brought you to this place of struggle where you are today.
It’s time to end that marriage, because it’s no longer working.
It no longer feels good (to probably either of you).
And you’re no longer functioning like a couple who cherishes one another.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t create something beautiful together.
It just means that in order to create something new, you will have to end what exists.
- If you want to build a brand new home on the existing lot, you will have to tear down the existing home first.
- If you want to take a new job offer, you will have to quit your current position.
- If you want to become someone new, we almost always have to kill off the old thoughts, the old beliefs and the old identity in order to step into who we want to be today.
The marriage you had is over. You know that; you’ve probably known it for a while.
There is no going back and why would you want to go back anyway?
But you can build something else. You can build something new.
And what you build together can be beautiful.
Want to know how I know that?
Because you now know what you want and need at this point in your life.
If you’re 50 years old today, you had no idea what you would want from your most intimate relationship at 50 when you married at 27. If you’ve been married for 20+ years, you had no idea the challenges you would face after being together that long and all the ways life would throw you curveballs. You didn’t know what you didn’t know; and now you do.
Will you have to un-learn patterns? Yes.
Will you have to communicate more than you ever have before? Of course. You’re not the same person you were 10, 20, 30 years ago and you’re going to need to get to know each other again.
Will you have to get equipped with some relationship tools so that you’re not in the same position 10 years from now? You bet.
But what if it could be beautiful? Is it worth it?
I have a program that has created many beautiful relationships where there was only pain previously. If it can happen for them, why can’t it be possible for you too? Let’s explore it.