The Intensity of Pain

“Never be ashamed of how deeply and passionately you loved someone who destroyed you, because destroying things is just who they are…and loving things deeply and passionately is who you are.”   butterflies rising   When Victoria found out about her husband’s...

Judgement Doesn’t Help

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Mother Theresa   Women who have lied find me… Women who have cheated find me… Women who have engaged with married men find me… Women who have done things they’re not proud of find me… And even men who are...

I Didn’t Go Looking for an Affair

“If you don’t receive love from the ones that are meant to love you, you will never stop looking for it.” Robert Goolrick   “I never intended for this to happen.” “I never saw this coming.” “I didn’t go looking for an affair.” “We were just talking as friends.”...

It’s Not (Only) About the Affair

“Cancer is that awful word we all fear when we go to the doctor…, but in that brief dark moment we hear it the world we live in and the people we share it with begin to illuminate things we did not even pay attention to.” BD Phillips   I wrote an article for an...