How to get out of self-blame, shame and regret

“What we don’t need in the midst of struggle is shame for being human.” Brené Brown I received a message from a client who was really struggling with a lot of self-blame and regret associated with her relationship that recently ended.  After some distance from the...

“If I reveal my true self, I won’t be…”

“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.” Shannon L. Alder We had a beautiful conversation on a recent coaching call, where several ladies shared that they felt as though they couldn’t be their true...

What to Do When You Parent Differently

“You have to get along with people, but you also have to recognize that the strength of a team is different people with different perspectives and different personalities.” Steve Case My client and her husband are very different people, which means that their...

Is Affection Built on Nature or Nurture?

 “We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection.” -Dalai Lama I did not grow-up in a family that showed affection easily or consistently. There weren’t a lot of hugs, kisses and snuggles. That didn’t mean I wasn’t loved. I...

Who Taught Your Husband How to be a Man?

“If boys don’t learn, men won’t know.” Douglas Wilson His grandparents slept in separate twin beds in the same room. His grandfather was a funny, endearing man. He was not the Alpha in that relationship, though. His grandmother was clearly in charge. His father wasn’t...

Is One of You an Avoidant?

People with Avoidant attachment styles: “…you connect with romantic partners but always maintain some mental distance and an escape route. Feeling close and complete with someone else – the emotional equivalent of finding a home – is a...