I Just Want Him Back

“Anyone who has lost something they thought was theirs forever finally comes to realize that nothing really belongs to them.” -Paulo Coelho Stacy’s affair of three years just ended. She’s heartbroken. She had been holding out hope that one day, they could be together....

Your Kids Aren’t Part of Your Marriage

“Care about people’s approval, and you will always be their prisoner.” -Lao Tzu My client’s kids are grown, off building their own families, own careers, and own lives. She and her husband had made a decision that her oldest daughter didn’t...

What Constitutes a Successful Marriage?

“A long but unhappy marriage is not a successful marriage.” -Dr. Anne Brown So many people believe that a successful marriage is the one that lasts forever… …the one that lives up to the vow, “‘till death do us part.” So we often hold ourselves to that...

My Affair Made Me Feel Alive…or Maybe It was Something Else

“From a psychological perspective, our relationship to the forbidden sheds a light on the darker, and less straightforward aspects of our humanity.” Esther Perel My client, Mary, told me, “My affair made me feel alive.” Because she had been feeling numb, lonely and...

I’m Stuck. I Can’t Leave.

“If you cannot live without your marriage, you cannot navigate within it.” Harriet Lerner, PhD My client is a full-time nurse and her husband is an executive who is both over-working and over-drinking. She suspects it’s his way of avoiding the difficulties inside the...