When do you know the marriage is over?

“I went to war for what we had; you never even laced your boots.” N.R. Shepherd When do you know the marriage is over? When do you stop fighting for the marriage? My client listed all the things that are not working in her marriage: No affection and intimacy. They...

One Simple Way to Get Out of Roommate Status

“If you’re only talking tactics and logistics (no longer talking about your hopes and dreams), your relationship will eventually feel like roommates.” -paraphrased from Alex Charfen When I ask women to define the struggles inside the marriage, it oftentimes sounds...

Controlling For 30 Years…Until Now.

“Your children will become who you are; so be who you want them to be.” -David Bly My new client and I met for the first time on our first video coaching session. It is during this first session that I understand all the details about the struggles in the marriage and...

Inspiring Isn’t Always Effective

A few days ago, I posted a quote from Frida Kahlo (a world-renowned self-portrait painter, with multiple disabilities in the early 1900s and a role model for generations of artists) to her husband Diego. “I’m not asking you to kiss me, nor apologize to me...

What Constitutes a Successful Marriage?

“A long but unhappy marriage is not a successful marriage.” -Dr. Anne Brown So many people believe that a successful marriage is the one that lasts forever… …the one that lives up to the vow, “‘till death do us part.” So we often hold ourselves to that...