Why I Hate the Label Mid-Life Crisis

Last updated: Jun 25, 2019

“When she transformed into a butterfly, the caterpillars spoke not of her beauty, but of her weirdness. They wanted her to change back into what she had always been. But she had wings.” Dean Jackson

As women, we’re constantly evolving.

As spiritual beings, we’re waking up.

As seekers, we’re becoming more self-aware.

As mothers and wives, we’re realizing it’s time to put our needs first.

This means we’re changing….growing….developing;

We’re becoming more ourselves.

We’re getting in touch with our needs.

In many cases, we’re feeling emotions and sensations that we’ve never known before.

So we want the kind of soulful, nurturing, sustaining love in a partner.

Yes, we want our children to flourish, but we also want to flourish.

We want a career that lights us up and contributes in a big way (both to the organization and to ourselves).

We want to know – deep down in our soul – all that we are capable of.

This may make some people in your life uncomfortable.

They will want you to stop changing and go back to who you were.

They are trying to make sense of why we’re changing (and maybe justify why they’re not), so they like to box us in with a label of, “She’s just having a mid-life crisis.”

Here’s the problem: Just simply putting the label mid-life crisis on our experience makes it seem like it’s something that’s happening to us and beyond our control (like menopause). It also minimizes our experience and diminishes the importance of our journeys.

This is not like a common cold that will eventually pass. And although it may feel like we’re in the midst of a crisis, I like to think of it more as a mid-life awakening.

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We’re finally giving ourselves permission to honor our needs and let our light shine – brightly, abundantly and unapologetically.

When someone tells you you’re having a “mid-life crisis,” they’re telling you their story, not yours.

Yours is a story of evolution, of profound change and inspirational growth.

Yours is a story of becoming the highest expression of yourself.

Yours is a story of growing wings and realizing, “Holy shit, I can fly.”

Tell the Truth. Show up in Love. Live in Freedom.




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