How We Love

Last updated: Jun 25, 2019

“The Universe isn’t invested in giving us what we want. It’s invested in teaching us how to love.” Marianne Williamson


We may not be able to choose who we fall in love with, but we most certainly get to choose how we love.

We can love with fire or with fear.

We can love with peace or with passion.

We can love with honesty and openness or with doubt and hesitation.

We can even choose to love with our hearts or our minds. One leads us to deep intimacy, the other leads to pragmatic numbness.

We get to choose how we love.

Love is a verb.

It is an action we take.

It is a leap we make.

It is a walk in faith.

But it is not a gift, a favor nor an obligation. We don’t do it for the other person; we do it because we can’t not love.

To stop loving is to cut off the channel to our soul.

Love, at its very best, is for us.

Love in its most pure form is simply demonstrated through us.

At our core, love is all we are. And it’s all we’re here to do.

Not to receive it; but to do it. To be the one who loves. To be the vessel through which it flows.

When we realize that we are simply the one who loves, we can stop searching, seeking and grasping for love to be focused at us. Whether or not the one whom we love chooses to love us back takes on far less significance.

But here’s the truth: Once we choose to become love, we will never have a shortage of it in our lives.

we can't not love




If You’re Struggling In Your Marriage…

I will help you find the clarity you need to re-commit to making your marriage work
or the strength and peace of mind to lovingly release it.