Have I Outgrown My Husband?

If one has not in fact grown in the course of a marriage, it has been a dreadful disaster. Mere longevity in a marriage is not necessarily something to celebrate, for what happened to the souls of those individuals along the way?” – James Hollis, The Eden...

Your Kids Aren’t Part of Your Marriage

“Care about people’s approval, and you will always be their prisoner.” -Lao Tzu My client’s kids are grown, off building their own families, own careers, and own lives. She and her husband had made a decision that her oldest daughter didn’t...

What Are We Arguing About?

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking.” – Naomi Wolf One of my clients came downstairs and picked a fight with her husband about how messy the kitchen was while he was cooking dinner. “Can’t you ever just cook a...

When do you know the marriage is over?

“I went to war for what we had; you never even laced your boots.” N.R. Shepherd When do you know the marriage is over? When do you stop fighting for the marriage? My client listed all the things that are not working in her marriage: No affection and intimacy. They...