“Curiosity is, in great and generous minds, the first passion and the last.” Samuel Johnson
What do you most love to talk about?
- Inspirational ideas?
- Dreams and goals?
- Making plans?
- Spirituality or faith?
- Telling stories and laughing?
What do you and your husband talk about most often?
- The kids and their schedules?
- The news?
- The weather?
Houston…we have a problem.
It may sound obvious, but if you find that mostly what you and your husband talk about are things like the news and the weather, it’s no wonder you feel so disconnected.
Maybe you stopped talking to him about the things that interest and inspire you because he’s not interested in those same things…
Maybe he stopped talking to you about the things that interested and motivated him because you’re not interested in those same things…
So that leaves us with the common ground of things like…..well, the weather.
The day we stop being curious about our partners is the day that our relationship slowly begins to die.
It doesn’t matter that your husband loves to talk about health and nutrition and that’s not really your thing…listen anyway so that you can know your husband a little more deeply and he can feel heard and understood.
Don’t hold back on sharing a new idea you got or a dream that’s been calling to you lately. It shouldn’t matter if he’s not interested in the topic personally; if he’s interested in YOU, he’ll want to hear what interests and excites you.
That’s what keeps us actively and intellectually engaged with one another.
That’s where we feel known, heard and understood.
That’s what keeps us connected as we move and grow through life together.