The Opposite of Love Isn’t Hate. It’s Indifference.

Last updated: Jun 25, 2019

“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.”  Elie Wiesel


Yes, if you’re arguing constantly with your spouse, clearly the marriage is breaking down and becoming increasingly uncomfortable. But at least when you’re arguing with one another, you’re still trying….you’re still in the ring.

…You’re mostly caught in the chain of pain trying to get the other person to change…but you’re still trying to make it work, maybe in the only way you know how.

When we stop trying to make it work…

When we stop trying to get the other person to change…

When we stop trying to get them to understand our pain…or hear their point of view…

We become indifferent.

We stop caring.

We stop talking.

We even stop fighting.

We give up.

We just begin to do our own thing, not sharing information, coming home late, and confiding in others.

We get rebellious in what we will do to numb ourselves to the reality in our relationships.

We put up a protective wall around our hearts and shut down to minimize the future damage.

We’ve checked out and we begin to care less and less about what’s happening in our homes and in our relationship.

And that’s when we know the marriage may be too far gone to recover.

Because the opposite of love isn’t hate, anger, rage or blame. It’s actually indifference.

So, where are you in your marriage?

Are you still in the ring?

Are you still trying?

Or have you become indifferent?

Have you checked out?

If you need help figuring out whether or not you’re still in the ring or you’re trying to figure out how much longer you can stay in the ring before becoming completely and totally indifferent, then maybe I can help you. You’ve been doing it your way for a while now. Have things been getting progressively better or progressively worse? Maybe it’s time for an entirely new option. Let’s talk.





If You’re Struggling In Your Marriage…

I will help you find the clarity you need to re-commit to making your marriage work
or the strength and peace of mind to lovingly release it.