“…take a moment and ask yourself what is really important. Have the wisdom and courage to build your life around that answer.” Lee Jampolsky
When I was unhappy and struggling in my first marriage, it impacted literally every other aspect of my life:
- I wasn’t as focused or as confident at work.
- I gained weight and didn’t feel comfortable in my own skin.
- I drank more than I should have to numb myself and my emotions.
- My relationships with my family became strained.
- I distracted myself by keeping constantly busy.
- I wasn’t sleeping well because my mind was always racing and worrying.
- I told myself to think positively and to be grateful, but then beat myself up for not being able to do so consistently.
When our closest and (what should be) our most intimate relationships are crumbling, it impacts every other aspect of our lives.
So, here’s my question for you:
What’s important to you?
Because when something is really important to you…
- You take action…
- You walk through fears…
- You make it a priority by where you place your time, your money and your attention.
If your marriage is struggling, isn’t it time to finally figure out if it can change and feel good again or if it’s time to lovingly release it? Isn’t it time to get that answer and that clarity for yourself?
Most people, when they’re struggling in their relationship, don’t exactly look forward to Valentine’s Day. You may not get a gift, an opportunity to really connect or even a card. But that’s okay.
Maybe there’s a gift you can give to yourself…the gift of clarity.
The gift of knowing whether or not the relationship can be saved and if not, how to lovingly walk away from it. The gift of knowing whether or not working with a coach to help you get that clarity is the next right step for you…and if I’m that coach.
What I Know and What’s Important to Me
Knowing all that I know now, here’s what I can tell you about what’s important to me:
My relationship with my husband is by far the most important thing in my life. Period.
- More important than my work…
- More important than my income…
- More important than my family or my friends or my never-ending to-do list.
Because when my marriage is thriving, I am also thriving as a woman.
And I know for certain that when I am on my death bed…reflecting on my life…waiting to take my last breathe…the ONLY thing that will matter is the quality of my most important relationship. THAT’S IT. The only questions I will ask myself will be: “Was I loved deeply?” and “Did I love deeply?”
That’s what’s important to me.
What’s Important to You?
What do you really, truly value? What’s really important to you?
Where is the priority in your life and are you willing to give yourself that gift this Valentine’s Day?
And when you’re taking your last breathe in this one precious life, what will really matter to you?
It’s just a choice. The choice is all yours. What will you choose?
